I visited a website today for the first time that is specifically for women who have experienced the death of their child(ren). I'm sure men also read the entries, since they suffer just as much as women, but I understand the thoughts behind the blogger's purpose.
I cried reading the entries, remembering the same things I went through that they were blogging about. Some were so very much in despair that I wished I could sit and cry with them and somehow encourage them. I did feel uplifted in that I felt like I wasn't alone 2 1/2 years after Dan's passing, still feeling the freshness of the pain. Still feeling so very sad, day after day, but wanting to trust the Lord to help me through; and to also minister to my husband, daughter and others as well. I know that every time I have been at my lowest points, God has been faithful to send a phone call, a card, an encouraging word, a hug. . . He is so wonderful that way. He has brought me great joy during this time also. There are people I know now that I am so thankful to have in my life, that I would not have known if it wasn't for Dan's passing. Things about Dan that I wouldn't have known, how unselfish he was, how respected and loved he was - because those are things Dan wouldn't have told us.
Don't get me wrong. I would give everything to have Dan back, including my own life; but God promises that He will be with us in our storms and will use these situations to bring us to a deeper relationship with Him, if we only trust Him!
Just wanted to let others know how good God is and that He is there, no matter what the circumstance. He will bring you through, if you only surrender to His love and grace. God bless you all today.
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
Inspiration
I had this post on my facebook page this morning and had to share. It has so many thoughts and feelings that Fred and I experienced after Dan passed away. Read also the November 1 entry from My Utmost For His Highest titled "Ye Are Not Your Own." (www.myutmostforhishighest.org) It fits right in with these precious thoughts. I hope this encourages you today:
"I just finished a book by Cindi Broaddus. An unknown assailant dropped a gallon jar of sulfuric acid from an overpass; it crashed through the windshield of the car Cindi was in, showering her with glass and acid. She was burned almost beyond recognition and was given a less than 30% chance of survival. She writes:
I know one thing - it's not going to help me to ask, "Why me? What have I done to deserve this? Why has God allowed this to happen to me?" Those are not my questions.... [Asking why] implies that something so horrible should happen to someone else, that I should somehow be immune to the most difficult challenges in life, but that it is understandable if someone else is not. I prefer asking, "Why not me?" Let it be me over (my loved ones). Did someone else deserve it more? Of course not.... "What goes around comes around," people tend to say. If that's true, what did do to deserve this? No one, and I mean no one, deserves to have misfortune befall them. But as sure as there is life, we will all be tested at some point.
Later she writes: "Every survivor finds a new version of normal because we can never return everything to the way it was."
Someone once told me: the value of sorrow is that it never leaves us where it finds us."
"I just finished a book by Cindi Broaddus. An unknown assailant dropped a gallon jar of sulfuric acid from an overpass; it crashed through the windshield of the car Cindi was in, showering her with glass and acid. She was burned almost beyond recognition and was given a less than 30% chance of survival. She writes:
I know one thing - it's not going to help me to ask, "Why me? What have I done to deserve this? Why has God allowed this to happen to me?" Those are not my questions.... [Asking why] implies that something so horrible should happen to someone else, that I should somehow be immune to the most difficult challenges in life, but that it is understandable if someone else is not. I prefer asking, "Why not me?" Let it be me over (my loved ones). Did someone else deserve it more? Of course not.... "What goes around comes around," people tend to say. If that's true, what did do to deserve this? No one, and I mean no one, deserves to have misfortune befall them. But as sure as there is life, we will all be tested at some point.
Later she writes: "Every survivor finds a new version of normal because we can never return everything to the way it was."
Someone once told me: the value of sorrow is that it never leaves us where it finds us."
Monday, January 11, 2010
Economy and Other Important Stuff
I received a great email this morning from the Everyday Cheapskate site. I thought you all would be interested in. The email talks about 6 ways we can help the economy and one of them is:
Buy American. We need to get manufacturing and production to return to the USA as soon as possible. When it fits within your budget to buy goods and services, let's do everything we can to buy American. Look for companies that are producing products for homes and families at websites like StillMadeinUSA.com and MadeinUSA.com.
As we watch the debates on television about global warming or climate change, health care reform, cap and trade, I continually hear people saying "the debate is over on this issue." As far as I am concerned, debate is never over on these changing issues, or any issues for that matter. How many times has science reversed itself on issues that they say were irrefutable?
However, the debate IS over for one truth: the truth that Jesus Christ is our Lord and Savior. That debate was finished when Jesus gave his life on the cross for all of us. . . ALL of us. So, when you hear folks rambling on about there being no more debate on a topic, I encourage you to be bold and remind them that there is only one thing in this life that is non-debatable and finished.
Since it seems to us that time is growing short on this earth, we need to be about our Father's business, which is to spread his gospel of love. Love the Lord with all your heart, mind, soul and strength; and love each other as you love yourself.
God bless you all today!
Buy American. We need to get manufacturing and production to return to the USA as soon as possible. When it fits within your budget to buy goods and services, let's do everything we can to buy American. Look for companies that are producing products for homes and families at websites like StillMadeinUSA.com and MadeinUSA.com.
As we watch the debates on television about global warming or climate change, health care reform, cap and trade, I continually hear people saying "the debate is over on this issue." As far as I am concerned, debate is never over on these changing issues, or any issues for that matter. How many times has science reversed itself on issues that they say were irrefutable?
However, the debate IS over for one truth: the truth that Jesus Christ is our Lord and Savior. That debate was finished when Jesus gave his life on the cross for all of us. . . ALL of us. So, when you hear folks rambling on about there being no more debate on a topic, I encourage you to be bold and remind them that there is only one thing in this life that is non-debatable and finished.
Since it seems to us that time is growing short on this earth, we need to be about our Father's business, which is to spread his gospel of love. Love the Lord with all your heart, mind, soul and strength; and love each other as you love yourself.
God bless you all today!
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Happy 2010
Well, it's almost 2010 and I feel compelled to make a comment, since it's been a long time since I last blogged. This year will be a big year for our family since Missy will be having a baby in April (Riley Danielle). This will be a fresh start for us as well a bittersweet time. I'm not one for making resolutions or starting new programs or projects, but this year Fred and I do plan to enjoy being grandparents to the fullest extent possible! LOL. Still enjoying retirement and our new church family. God bless you all and HAPPY NEW YEAR!
Thursday, November 5, 2009
Comments
I've been wondering why no one posts a comment on this blog, so I went through the settings and made a change. You should be able to post a comment now. If someone would please do a test comment, I would appreciate it so I can check to make sure the changes I made work. Thank you! Cindy
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